Darling, if I could protect you, I would.
If I could protect your heart, I would.
But I can’t.
Because you need to love and you need to hurt from love, and that is the only way you’ll understand what love is.
But darling, if my words could have any effect, I would tell you everything I know. And I would tell you what love is and what it is not and how to tell and how to be safe even as you figure it all out.
Because love should be safe.
Because the person you love should feel like home, because being in the arts of that person should feel like coming home.
Because love should be laughing and crying and staying together through all of it.
Because the person you love should make every moment of life beautiful and worth it.
Because the person you love should light the fire of passion in your very being.
Because the person you love should be your rock in the eye of the storm.
And if it is not those things, then darling, I am so sorry, but it is not love.
If you are not comfortable with that person, then it is not love.
If that person’s words and actions hurt you as much as they touch you, then it is not love.
If you cannot do what you would when you are with that person, then it is not love.
If you have to light yourself on fire just to keep that person warm and happy, then it is not love.
If you would drown to keep that person’s head up and above the waves, and they would not even get into the water for you, then it is is not love.
If that person dares to insult you or manipulate you, or god forbid, raise a hand to you, then get the hell out of there darling, because that is not love.
Darling, love is safe and comfortable, love is happiness, love is give and take between you and your person.
Because you and your person, if it is love between you two, must be happy and healthy.
Because your happiness and health are most important darling.
Because even if it is love, your happiness and health are most important darling.
Because if you love your person and your person loves you, then your happiness and health will obviously be most important.
Because darling, love puts you first, even if you do not. And that’s what love is.
And it might not always be love, and that’s okay too.